About Us

Director

Dr. Debbye Graafsma, (BCPC)

LicenseD

 Debbye is a licensed & ordained minister, & holds her doctoral degree in Ministry & Counseling 

Certified

 Debbye is board certified through the International Board of Christian Counselors. 


Specialties & Services

 We offer the following opportunities for Growth in Personal Discipleship &Development. 


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One on One Confidential Session

personal growth and Inner development

One on One Confidential Session

Ptsd, addiction, recovery, depression, anxiety, dbt, emdr, spiritual.guidance

One-on-one Confidential sessions for individuals, couples and families of all ages, ethnicity & backgrounds.

Marriage repair and rebuilding

personal growth and Inner development

One on One Confidential Session

Coaching, emotional quotient, marriage counseling, family counseling, play therapy

Are you and your partner living with relationship failure? Difficulty connecting or communicating? We can help you rediscover your spark, and identify keys to healing.

personal growth and Inner development

personal growth and Inner development

personal growth and Inner development

Loneliness, abuse, parenting, workshops, classes, parental alienation,

 We can help in healing from addictions, abuse, abandonment, grief, abortion, sexual trauma, PTSD, depression, anger, anxiety, and special needs.

emotion & attachment

emotion & attachment

personal growth and Inner development

Relationship counseling, remote counseling, video sessions, phone sessions, zoom, Google duo

The current culture can be unkind, especially in terms of people skills and emotional intelligence. Its difficult to know what is healthy and what isn't in relationships. We can help in communication,  attachment & bonding, conflict resolution,  reunification, restoration from viable parental estrangement or alienation. 

Biblical Guidance

emotion & attachment

Biblical Guidance

Pastoral counseling, bible answers, marriage repair, engagement counseling, conflict resolution, communication

We believes the God who loves, is also the God of wisdom and answers. We believe in Jesus-centered, Biblically-based, honest and practical answers. 

WorkShops

emotion & attachment

Biblical Guidance

Gottman method, spiritual growth, suicide, cutting, anger management, narcissism, boundaries

We offer a variety of specialty workshops, with a Saturday morning filled with practical, helpful, hands-on information about issues  pertinent to your personal discovery and growth. Please check out our workshop page for the current schedules.


Bonding Focused

 We are attachment & bonding focused in providing therapeutic care.  We also utilize emotionally-focused therapy in restoring relationships.  It is one of our values to provide excellence of service, confidentiality in trust, quality of care, and ethical/moral treatment.


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Each person on the planet is a product of what we have experienced, what we have been taught, the modeling and imprinting we have received, and what we have gathered from relationships.  Additionally, even though it is difficult for most of us to believe, all of us are living on a learning journey. It is easy to "buy into the lie" that at some point we "just arrive" and "just know" how to live our lives.
 

The truth is, every person needs help from someone, at some time.  Sadly, only one person out of four, who realizes a personal need to acquire "life tools" will actually seek out help, asking questions to help themselves move forward in personal growth.
 

And did you know?  Only half of that 25% of persons will make the decision to push through their difficulties and sense of "feeling stuck" to discover what "life tools" are needed to add to their inner "toolbox," and further, how to utilize those "tools" and experience healthy relationships.
 

Are you in the 13%?
 

All it takes is a choice! Help is within reach. Why not call our office and set a time to begin your journey to wholeness?
 

Although we do not presently accept insurance, we do have a sliding scale available to clients after the initial intake session. 

Discipleship, mentoring, emotional tooling, spiritual discovery, journey, awaken, healing

Counseling, Indian trail, nc, christian

More About Dr. Debbye

  Dr. Graafsma has completed all levels in the (John and Julie) Gottman Marriage Institute, and utilizes the Gottman method in marriage care. She is certified in Applied Behavioral Analysis through the Center of Motivational Living. She utilizes emotionally-focused relational therapy, and believes in attachment/bonding theory.  She utilizes DBT and EMDR in crisis care.
 

"Ms. Debbye" utilizes play therapy in counseling with children, counsels with teens, and is experienced in helping clients who find themselves dealing with domestic abuse, addiction, violence, trauma and/or estrangement. She has experience in helping those recovering from sexual trauma, rape, addictions and other dependencies.
 

Dr. Graafsma is a member of the National Association of Parental Alienation Specialists. She teaches court-approved Parenting and Healthy Co-Parenting Classes. She is available to coach individuals and co-parents on a case-by-case basis, after interviews and screening.               Please call to apply or for information.
 

Dr. Graafsma also travels, speaking on spiritual and family issues. She is also available for corporate team development, conflict  mediation,  and  team discovery for creating healthy work environments.


Our Affiliates Include:

  • The International Board of Christian Counselors (IBCC)
  • The American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC)
  • The Gottman Marriage Institute
  • Co-Parenting International/One Heart Two Houses 
  • The International Foursquare Church
  • Livings Waters Ministries, International
  • The Call International 
  • The International Foursquare Church